Going to the gym has amazing benefits for your physical and mental health, but being stared at by guys at the gym can be incredibly frustrating.
This can scare you, worry about your safety, or even interrupt the flow of your training.
Generally, when people exercise, they tune out. Many people looking around the gym don't notice you, even if their eyes are looking directly at you.
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But most of us can agree that you can tell when just a guy stares at you non-stop and that's where it gets dangerous.
Since none of us really care about the occasional stare, this post is obviously aimed at solving the problem of that weirdo who thinks you don't see him looking at you all the time while you're doing squats, all the time.
Here's a complete list of things you can do to prevent guys from looking at you at the gym. I'll start this list with some more conventional methods and get more intense as we go.
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1#1 - Notify the gym owner
1.1 How do I do this?
2#2 - Go with one of your friends (or find a friend at the gym!)
3#3 – Call the police (Yes, 911.)
4#4 - Talk to other women at the gym about it
5#5 - Stare at it (not recommended)
6#6 - Wear the loosest clothes you can imagine
7#7 – Change gyms when all else fails
#1 – Notify the gym owner
Although this option seems the most obvious, many women do not do it because they fear that:
- a) Nothing will happen.
- B) That studio owners don't care
The truth is that studio owners prioritize things like that. Studio owners want ALL of their members to feel safe, even if they don't feel like it. If you don't feel safe, you'll probably tell other people and they'll stop paying for that gym too.
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Also, some places likefitness at any time,SNAP-Fitness, or alsoplanetafitnesswill fire the gym owner if he doesn't take the safety of his members seriously. This means that even if they own the gym, companies kick them out and not only lose their investment, but their job as well.
Ehrlich,These days, most gym owners genuinely care about the safety of their members.(this might have been different 30-40 years ago) regardless of the risk of being fired. This means that if you complain to the owner that someone is looking at you repeatedly, he is likely to correct himself.
After all, gyms are more popular than ever. Gyms no longer need to "fight" for customers like they used to. You can unsubscribe someone at any time and you don't even have to worry about it. And many gym memberships are complicated enough to charge a fee if someone gets kicked out.
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What does that mean?Well, in the 21st century, studio owners can fire a member without losing an investment or fighting the club owner over their bills.Honestly these days gyms will kick you out as soon as you have a friend in the door (from experience...) so they are more than willing to kick out a member who threatens someone's safety.
How do I do that?
If you're someone like me, you've probably seen your gym owner 0 times in your life. I swear these guys work a maximum of 3 hours a month (it's theirsFreeway Millionaire Mentality) and its opening hours are very rare (4:35 to 4:36).
However, most places check all of your voicemails and check your emails daily. Some gyms even have a suggestion box that they review(though I wouldn't count on that for an immediate response).
It's best to stop by during business hours and sit face to face with the owner or one of the employees. This will ensure that your complaint is heard.
If you are unable to do this, please call and/or leave a voicemail or email during business hours.
If they don't respond, call the corporate office and even leave a review of the gym detailing what's going on. (They will respond quickly to this...)
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Now, gym owners can't just kick out the person they love right away without doing a little research. Therefore, it is a good idea to provide as much detail, date and time, and information as possible.
The best way to file a complaint is as follows:
Write down when you go to the gym and when you meet this person. Explain when the person is looking at you and what you are doing when they are looking at you.
Most gyms have quality cameras for insurance claims. so you can see everything that's going on.
(I used to be friends with the owner of a SNAP Fitness gym, and she told me that their locations were regularly vandalized [machines broken, vandalized, etc.], so they usually had good camera systems to be able to accept the insurance claim Unfortunately, he even had to pay for some things with his own money...)
My point though is if you give them the right information then in these situations they can see his head looking at you and make the right call to talk to him or get him out of there.
Yelling at the person usually teaches them a lesson not to do it. But if they're real scoundrels, you can usually tell and they'll kick you out right away.(You know what I mean? The difference between a high school boy going through puberty and an unshaven 30 year old who hasn't showered in 3 weeks and has 6 restraining orders)
That should work, but if it doesn't, we have a few other solutions (but it's probably a good idea to switch gyms anyway, for your own safety).
#2 – Go with one of your friends (or find a friend at the gym!)
Let's say you're training a 300 pound meat monster.with arms the size of Rich Piana.This guy suddenly doesn't want to be caught staring at you anymore.
This also serves as a way for the guy you are dating to take on the other guy.Men are much better at confronting other men.This means that if your friend is with you and notices it, they can immediately identify the behavior and the accused person is likely to be afraid.
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Usually when women argue, they do it out loud. But when men argue or challenge another man, it usually leads to a physical altercation. In general, weirdos aren't overly muscular or strong in the gym anyway, and if they have to sneak past women in the gym, chances are they're low on testosterone anyway.
What does that mean? The accused stalker will probably want to avoid a confrontation at all costs (most weirdos do) and knowing that there's a guy who's after you, he'll probably get out of there fast.
This ties in with everything our moms used to tell us about a police officer or one of his male colleagues escorting you to your car when it's dark outside. These jerks know they'll take a beating from any real man, so they avoid attacking you when you have a guy with you.
(I'm not saying women can't defend themselves, but scientifically and genetically, women are much weaker than men. And it's not a good idea to compromise their safety.)
The same premise applies here. If that weirdo at the gym sees you with another hunky guy, he'll probably back off just out of fear of getting hurt.
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If you don't have male friends, don't worry. Most of the guys at the gym are also concerned about the safety of everyone around them. If you see a regular customer you can trust for a while, you might want to talk to them about the stranger who's been watching you. 99% of the time they will talk to him for you or offer protection against him.
#3 – Call the police (Yes, 911.)
If the gym owners don't respond, it might be time to call the police.
In all honesty, the chances of the offender being charged are very slim, but if the gym owner has a police officer knocking on their door demanding an explanation, the situation is likely to be resolved very quickly.
Also, having that vine chasing you out of the gym can help. A documented tip with the police can be helpful in a restraining order case.
Also, if the person has a record, is on probation/parole, or is a registered sex offender, they may be sent back to prison for possibly violating the terms of their agreement.
For example, some sex offenders may be within a mile of an elementary school. However, it's not just limited to places like school, depending on what was charged, it could even include gyms or places other women go.
The most likely result is that the gym owner will receive a notification from the police, who will likely fix things at the gym immediately.But he's also helping anyone else who might feel threatened by him by providing a story for the courts to look at.
#4 – Talk to other women at the gym about it
Chances are, this creep isn't just crawling on you. There may be other women in the gym who are incredibly uncomfortable with her actions or what she is doing.
You can assemble a group of people who can ask the gym owner to take action or even create a big police report.
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The bare minimum: You get a support group to help you with this. Being followed or stared at during a workout can seriously ruin the gym experience.
#5 – Watch it (not recommended)
Well, I don't recommend it at the risk of your own safety. I mean, absolutely, please don't do this.
But if he's just a young school boy, it may only take one look to learn his lesson.
I have some friends who do MMA like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and they can catch anyone off guard. I also know that some of my friends carry pistols hidden in their purses. If you're one of those women, it might be worth asserting yourself.
Again, I personally do not recommend this. But many other women online on forums, blogs, and discussion boards have talked about it working.
Like I said, I think there should be an argument that this works for some of those people who "stare" but don't really "crawl" (like a 14 year old), but if it's more than I can give you, I strongly recommend you not put yourself in danger.
You really have no way of knowing a person's true intentions, so it's better to be safe than sorry and NOT confront them directly/alone.
#6 - Wear the loosest clothes you can imagine
I hate to suggest this, as I think you should be able to wear whatever is comfortable to the gym (damn, I'm just wearing sweatpants and a white t-shirt, it might be dated, but it's comfortable).
But the truth is, if you're wearing super-baggy clothing that the tracker can't see anything through, you're likely to back off. I really only recommend this if you have no other option available (no other gym within 40 miles).
At my gym, one of my friends walks in wearing big basketball shorts and an oversized sweatshirt, she keeps her sweatshirt on the whole time, and you can't even tell she's a woman working out. She is also very aggressive towards anyone who looks at her and often scares off gym creeps. I respect you a lot.
I don't know her history, but I have a feeling she's been hurt in the past and I really like that she stands up for the other scared women in the gym and prevents them from getting goosebumps.
While I don't like that she's forced to wear this to the gym, I understand why she's doing it. And finally, if you have no other choice, it's worth a try.
Like I said before, it's probably best to change gyms to avoid danger.But if you're sitting here telling me that you have absolutely NO OTHER choice, this could be your temporary solution until you get out of this asshole.
#7 – Change gyms when all else fails
See, I had the gift of living a lifetime traveling across the country and meeting literally hundreds of thousands of people. And I'm telling you firsthand, many women overestimate their confidence.
There are some seriously confused people out there. And you don't want to play with your safety. Unless the scoundrel doesn't get kicked out of your gym or whatever the case may be, it's much better to switch gyms just to be safe.
It is not worth your life or your safety to stay in the same gym, even if you have to drive another 10-20 minutes, your safety is priceless. Don't risk the small price of a gym exchange.
Everyone says, "That will never happen to me."Don't take chances, many of these men usually have nothing to lose, so prison is not for them. Be safe and be smart.
Watching guys at the gym can be one of the worst things you can experience. Sometimes it's not just a "look", it can be so much more.
For someone who isn't necessarily a threat to you, a stern look might be all it takes to drive you away. But my first and foremost recommendation is to contact the gym owner, find a gym buddy to work out with, and even contact the police if you are being harassed enough.
Do not put yourself in danger, use the appropriate means to guarantee your safety. Your life is priceless and there are some confused people out there so stay sane.
Let me know in the comments below if you've tried any other ways to make goosebumps stop looking and I'll add them to this post.
How do you deal with a guy who stares at you at the gym? ›
The first thing to keep in mind is that you shouldn't cower away when they look at you. Don't shy away. Don't let them control how you respond and how you act when you're at the gym. Instead, look them straight in the eye, smile, and say, “Good morning!” or “Hello!”Why do all guys stare at me? ›
1 He likes something about you. 2 He's reminded of someone else. 3 He wants to talk to you. 4 He's curious about you.Do men get gym crushes? ›
One recent Bowflex survey even reports that 34 percent of men have had a crush on their trainer. “The gym could be both the best and the worst place to meet someone, if we want to go black and white,” says Leora Manischewitz, Psy. D., clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in New York.Does gym guys last longer in bed? ›
Exercise can help build up strength. If you want to increase your stamina, you'll need to build up your strength. A stronger body can endure more, allowing you to last longer between the sheets.How do you get guys to stop staring at you? ›
Never Avoid The Gawker
Ignoring will help him get what he wants, making you uncomfortable and insecure. And you shouldn't let that happen. Start staring back at him, make sit straight with a loud and firm body posture or fearless expression. Keeping staring until the gawker shies away after feeling guilty.
- #1 They Hold The Door For You.
- #2 They Won't Stop Looking At You.
- #3 They Keep Walking Past You.
- #4 They Offer to Help You.
- #5 They Try And Make Conversation With You.
- #6 They Compliment You.
- #7 They Ask How You Got So Toned.
- #8 They Go To The Water Fountain With You.
When a guy stares into your eyes and doesn't look away, he may be trying to size you up. Intently staring can be a good thing and might mean that he likes what he sees. Research indicates that in many cases of prolonged eye contact, both parties are interested in each other or maybe aroused.What causes a man to stare at a woman? ›
If he's staring at your face and your body, he's most likely into you. That's what men do when they're interested. We move our eyes up and down the female body. Shy guys will act nervous if you catch them staring.Why do men like short girls? ›
Guys often like short girls because their height difference makes them feel needed and like they can protect them. Some guys are drawn to short girls because they make them feel taller and more manly, boosting their ego. Shorter guys often like shorter girls because they are more similar in size.What does it mean when someone stares at you in the gym? ›
People stare at other people in gyms for many reasons. These people may want to copy your form, admire how strong you are, or are just zoned out and staring at any moving object in their line of sight. (I do this last one quite a lot in between exercises.)
How do you react when a guy stares at you? ›
Look back, smile and hold the other person's gaze briefly. Most people will smile back and then look away. Look back, smile or nod to show them you have noticed – this may also break the ice.Does it mean a guy likes you if he stares at you? ›
When a guy stares into your eyes and doesn't look away, he may be trying to size you up. Intently staring can be a good thing and might mean that he likes what he sees. Research indicates that in many cases of prolonged eye contact, both parties are interested in each other or maybe aroused.How do you act around a gym crush? ›
The real secret to getting to know your gym crush… is to just be friendly. When you see them make eye contact and smile. The next time you can do the same and throw in a 'hi'. Be friendly and build it up slowly, there's no need to try rushing things – just be friendly and let it happen naturally.